Have you ever had a relationship problem before and heard back the advice “When it’s right you’ll know?” I have too and the truth is up until now it’s always left me baffled. It’s kind of like in the Jay-Z and Kanye West song **ggas in Paris where Kanye West says “Got my **ggas in Paris, and they goin’ gorillas” and then Will Farrell or someone else in the background says: “Huh? I don’t even know what that means!”
“You’ll know it’s right” sounds great, but for the longest time I didn’t understand what it meant. I felt like it was a nice way to change the topic. That is until today (I know I’m a late bloomer). After all these years I’ve finally gained an understanding of what exactly that phrase means.
Firstly, you should know that for months now I’ve been trying to sort through what to do next as far as my career and I’ve really been frustrated with the process. There have been times where I kind of knew what I wanted, but for some reason I didn’t feel motivated enough to get started so I was going through the motions. There were also days where I thought I had it figured out and I would start drafting a plan of action, but for whatever reason I’d let that drift off too.
My mental back and forth had me really kicking myself. Why was I being so indecisive? Still in spite of my personal frustrations I kept searching for answers. I knew I needed to figure out the right path to take career-wise, so I kept thinking forcing myself to think through my options.
My Mom is pretty much the main person I go to for advise and she always tells me “When it’s right you’ll know” and then she does that Mom smile the one that says someday you’ll understand. Well, my next question whenever she gives me the “you’ll know” advise is HOW?
How will I know it’s right? (Totally thought of Whitney Houston just now. RIP Whitney). The response I usually get back from my Mom is “you’ll just know, I can’t explain it.” B-O-O. Boo. That answer does not satisfy me and I’m guessing it doesn’t satisfy you either. So let me tell you HOW you will actually know it’s right.
I believe you will know it is right because it will move you to action!
It’s been about six months I’ve been trying to sort out what I want to do next in my career and today after a conversation with an old friend about careers I made up my mind about my future. I can’t even tell you where the conviction came from, all I can say is just like my Mom said, I just knew it was right. After months of 1/2 stepping today I registered for the GMAT, I set up some key milestones I need to hit, and I’ve started scheduling out my time and setting up short term goals to get me to my big goal. I’m on it. I know what I’m doing is right and no matter what happens I can feel I have the strength to follow through with my plan.
Because of my breakthrough today, I realize now knowingness is a process. When my Mom said “you’ll know when its right” she didn’t mean an alarm would go off or that I’d get a call from someone with the answers. She didn’t mean I’d have a dream about my future husband that would help me know what action to take. My Mom was essentially telling me to be patient and to listen to my spirit.
Sometimes when were searching for answers it is about taking things day by day, being patient, and waiting for the magic moment when your heart and mind align. There is value in the process of becoming. Feeling like you don’t know what to do is OK. It truly is ok to be confused and lost. That is part of the process and going through that “wilderness” is essential to getting to a state of knowingness. It’s my belief that once you endure that journey you’ll get to the place where your heart and mind are in alignment AND THAT is when you’ll get a sense of knowingness that propels you into action.
So if your asking yourself when will I know, when will I know. Wait patiently, it just means the process is still in motion your moment of knowingness is yet to come. But it will come and with it you will have no doubt about what it is you need to do. The question is will you do it?
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